For both men and women, pain can occur in the pelvic area during or soon after sexual intercourse. It can happen at any time during sexual activity -- for example, at the time of penetration, erection, or ejaculation. Eventually, if pain from intercourse is ongoing, you could lose interest in any sexual activity.

The medical term for this is dyspareunia.

• Intercourse too soon after surgery or child birth
• Vaginal dryness or inadequate lubrication (for example, from insufficient foreplay)
• Menopause (vaginal lining loses its normal moisture and becomes dry)
• Vaginal infection
• Prostatitis -- inflammation of the prostate
• Genital irritation from soaps, detergents, douches, or feminine hygiene products
• Herpes sores, genital warts, or other sexually transmitted diseases
• Urinary tract infections
• Endometriosis
• Vaginismus -- involuntary contraction of the vaginal muscles; this may be a result of ongoing painful intercourse as well as a cause
• Misfit diaphragm or reaction to the latex of a diaphragm or condom
• History of sexual abuse or rape
• Hemorrhoids
• Certain medications

For painful intercourse in women after pregnancy:

• Gentleness and patience should be exercised.
• Wait at least 6 weeks before resuming sexual relations after childbirth.

For inadequate lubrication/vaginal dryness:

• Try water-based lubricants
• If you are going through menopause, and the over-the-counter lubricants don't work, talk to your doctor about estrogen-containing creams or other prescription medications.

For painful intercourse caused by prostatitis:

• Soak in a warm bath.
• Drink plenty of fluids, but avoid alcohol and caffeine.
• Try over-the-counter pain medications like acetaminophen (Tylenol) or non-steroidal anti-inflammatories like ibuprofen (Advil or Motrin IB)
• Take antibiotics, as prescribed by your doctor.

For hemorrhoids, try stool softners. Antibiotics may be required for urinary tract infections, sexually transmitted diseases,or vaginal infections.

Other causes of painful intercourse may require prescription medications or, rarely, surgery.

Sex therapy may be helpful, especially if no underlying medical cause is identified. Occasionally, variables (such as guilt, inner conflict, or unresolved feelings about past abuse) may be involved which need to be worked through in therapy.

Unless abuse is involved, it is best for your partner to see the therapist with you.

Call your doctor if:

• Home remedies are not working.
• You have other symptoms along with the painful intercourse, like bleeding, genital lesions, irregular periods, penile or vaginal discharge, or involuntary vaginal muscle contraction.

If you are a victim of a sexual assualt, report the crime to the police and go to the emergency room immediately. Get a trusted friend to accompany you. DO NOT change, bathe, shower or even wash your hands before the ER evaluation. The temptation to do so will be great, but it is important to not lose any evidence in order to help find, charge, and convict the perpetrator.

Your doctor will take your medical history and perform a physical examination.

Medical history questions may include:

• When did the pain begin or has intercourse always been painful?
• Is intercourse painful every time that it is attempted?
• Is it painful for your partner as well?
• At what point during (or after) intercourse does the pain begin? Upon entry/penetration? During ejaculation?
• Where, specifically, is the pain?
• Does anything make the pain better?
• Do you have any other symptoms?
• What are your attitudes towards sex in general?
• Have you had a significant traumatic event in the past (rape, child abuse, or similar)?
• What medications do you take?
• What illnesses, diseases, and disorders are you being treated for?
• Have you had a significant emotional event recently?

It may be best to see the doctor together with your partner. Physical examination may include a pelvic examination (for women), a prostate examination (for men), and a rectal examination. If a physical problem is suspected, appropriate tests will be ordered.

Antibiotics, painkillers, or hormones are amongst the treatment options that may be considered.

• Good hygiene and routine medical care will help to some degree.
• Adequate foreplay and stimulation will help to ensure proper lubrication of the vagina.
• The use of a water-soluble lubricant like K-Y Jelly may also help. Vaseline should not be used as a sexual lubricant since it is not water soluble and may encourage vaginal infections.
• Practicing safe-sex can help prevent sexually transmitted diseases.